"if U can see my mirror, then I can't see U"

Recently I saw this reference to a mirror on the back of a truck. Obviously, it is a safety measure the trucking company uses to keep other drivers from getting to close to the truck as it goes down the road. However, it generated an interesting thought for me as I often reflect on the various meanings of what I see (no surprise here).

My work on LMX Concierge has reminded me of how difficult it is to see ourselves and others objectively. Because we are made as a unique combination of many needs, our perceptions have filters and biases that contaminate how we make sense of what we see. If we are a task oriented person, we view working with others differently than relationally oriented people. If we are dogmatic, then those who wish to operate in shades of grey confuse us. If we tend to take responsibility for what happens, then we can't understand those who are more likely to blame their situation or others for what just happened. there are many other needs we have and then there are all the combinations and degree of intensity that together make us who we are and make others different from us.

Now back to the mirror. The thought that hit me was that if we are driving through life looking through a mirror, then we are mainly seeing everything else through the lenses of self. If we are trying to lead others to accomplish their goals, to what degree are we really seeing the other person objectively? Mirrors reflect images of the real thing, plus we can't see other people or situations without seeing our self first.

The challenge we have as we engage others is to accurately see them without our biases and filters and without their facades. LMX Concierge is designed to present not only an objective profile of an individual but also an objective view of how the individual perceives the goal he or she is pursuing. This objective assessment of "personality in context" reveals the opportunities for greater performance (Engagement Gaps) and is invaluable in improving dialogue in a relationship. Judgmentalism is reduced and trust is increased. It's certainly worth a try, wouldn't you think?    @ www.lmxconcierge.com