Why don't we weep over sin rather than judge it??

The Gospel of grace produces a heart that is broken and weeps over what sin has done to someone we love rather than a wounded heart that judges the hurt our loved one has done to us.





I was recently reflecting over a Christian family I know that has gone through a divorce. In this case the wife and mom left the marriage. The response of the husband and father was rather self righteous. As the carnal mind would react, he focused on his accusations of her regarding her sin. He created vitriol in the teenage children toward their mother by turning their attention to the mistakes she had made and how she had hurt them. The father and the sons reported how this trauma in their lives had turned them more to faith in God's saving grace. Yet, judgmentalism, bitterness, and unforgiveness continued to rule their relationships with her. The question is should this faith not change the hearts of the father and the children toward their mother?

The fact is that this mom is a special lady, a Child of the King, but had a life time of sin perpetuated on to her by others engendering in her fear and guilt. From childhood through years of marriage she had been harmed and violated in many ways, hindering for her the privileges and provisions of the Kingdom. Now, I am not professing that what is done to us excuses what we do. The point here is not explaining or rationalizing the sin in her life (or ours for that matter) but exploring the Grace reaction and response we should have toward others' sin, especially the sin against us by those who are close to us, like family. We should weep over what the sin of others has done to a person, not what sin that person has done.

The model for us:
The Jews had rejected Jesus as their Messiah and King. What was His response? He said He did not come to judge but to save. He wept over Jerusalem. The effects of sin on His children were His focus, not their sin actions. His heart is broken over our sin, He does not condemn us for it (Romans 8:1). In fact He died for the sin that affects and harms us, not for what we did or do.

Why would we, who have been transformed by Grace, not have the same mind toward others?  Something to ponder...